Guiding your chilld through their Child Development Stages

0 Comments Published December 14th, 2009 in Child Development Stages

Uniformity of message, approach as well as delivery are important components to any kind of productive childâ€™s development system through their child development stages. There could be some risk that if your youngster has had several carers, then it might be inevitable that their child progress may be effected or even become inconsistent. Through various carers they might encounter different types of care.

Somtimes the youngster might show various personalities in a short time period, sometimes wilful, sometimes placid sometimes they are the most delightful thing we’ve possibly experienced. This is not something which we ought to automatically be concerned about, but having some form of guideline may be beneficial. from this we could then be able to gauge where the child may reasonably expected to be against their achieved stage.

We should also account for the fact that some youngsters grow at different rates and also the fact that many external, possibly significant, event may have also influenced that childâ€™s development. This is something which we have encountered first hand when our own young youngster suffered a severe injury to his arm. A distressing event for both him as well as us as his parents. Learning to cope with such trauma and the consequences is something that we are going to cover later.

We have prepared this early years Child Development Stages guide which may be of some use.

What Age?	How the behavior is shown	Tasks for the child	Tasks for the carer
Birth to eighteen month	Your child may be continually demanding attention.Â What the may be saying is that they are are not coping with their feelings or may simply be communicating their distress. They may be feeling vulnerable if they are not receiving constant feedback from you.Â They will be seeking constant reassurnace of your presence.	The child must learn to seek help from their carers in order to cope with their feelings.Learn to trust carers and explore the world. Learn to self comfort by imagining those senses experienced from the parentâ€™s calming presence. Learn to cope with the feelings of seperation.	The child may exhibit infantile and willÂ need firm containment and nurturing attention. You should respond to these types of messages by offering your child reassurance. Don’t simply ignore them as this may make them more distressed. Use some form ofÂ distraction technique, for example playing with their favorite toy, to diffuse the situation
Eighteen to thirty-six months	Your child gives an uncomfortable laugh and/or smiles at you or possibly some other gesture of defiance.Â They may then do the very thing you have told him/her not to do.Your child needs help managing their emotions and impulses. They are aware of the fact that there are rules but simply don’t yet have the capacity for self regulation.	Begin to think, to distinguish between thinking and feeling.Learn to be separate, yet safely connected to parent. Learn to control impulses to please the parent.	Acknowledge to your child that you have recognise their ‘signal’. Offer your child alternative activities in a gentle but firm manner. Reinforce any predefined consequences for rule breaking with your child
Three to twenty-four months	The child steals from the parents, siblings, best friends, teacher and others in perceived authority.Your child is telling you that they need to keep a connection to you or if stealing from others, they are unable to resist the ‘take it’ impulse.	Permanence, knowing that things and people still exist when they are out of actual contact over time and through any and all emotions.	Give your child something to serve as a reminder of you.Play a game of hide and seek with the object, this will reinforce the concept of permanence. In situations where temptation exists, encourage the child through talking to resist the ‘take it’ urge.

We hope that your have found this short article of Child Development Stages useful and if you would like to share some of your ideas, please leave a comment.

Speak soon, Jayne & Mike.

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