Children & Anger: Parents have to be Role Models

This has probably been discussed in countless situations and from personal experience, it is very true. Around the time when my youngest was about the age of two, I was more or less working 65-70 hours a week and had little time for anything else. Not having the energy to deal with a over active toddler, I found myself raising my voice on quite a number of occasions and when pressures built to the point where Jayne and I were arguing regularly, we began to notice the change in our youngest. He had become to almost copy the behavior of his father and mother; particularly we noticed how easy it was for him to become confrontational. It dawned on us, that during this crucial stage of his development where he was more a less soaking everything up from his environment, we needed to be mindful and regulate the way we behaved around him. A lot is made today about work-life balance and this was a good example of how, if you get it wrong, you can end up with one angry child.

Discovering the cause of Children Rage

Not all children’s anger is down to the behavior of grownups, but children do not become angry for no reason. Your own part as a father or mother is to support your son or daughter helping them discover the source of this anger and help them resolve those feelings. I am sure that on some occasions, there may well be no obvious cause, in which case you will be left to simply manage the situation or more accurately, help them cope with feelings that may be unsettling.

Teaching a child to be aware of his or her inner thoughts is a vital part of kid’s anger management. Allow your child convey their feelings, especially the difficult feelings that most people including adults, have a tendency to bury away. It can be healthy to experience these feelings and they are all part of your child’s emotional development.

Become Mindful for your Children’s Feelings

Discovering how you can find why a child can be getting upset can take significant practice for parents to develop. Teaching your son or daughter to acknowledge the feeling that may be growing inside of them, getting them to accept it, showing them how they may communicate that feeling to you and how together you can solve the issue is a skill which you will develop with practice.
When your child is upset, he or she wants you as a parent to recognise that fact. They want you to make these ‘nasty’ feelings go away. With time you’ll be able to diffuse the most volatile of situations and prevent your child’s rage from transforming into a full blown tantrum.

They say that no-one is born as a parent, it’s all about practice. From personal experience, anger is one of the key challenges to be faced and the best way of tackling it is to take a deep breath, count to ten and keep calm. How many times of you heard that one? An old cliché, but a true one.

We hope you have enjoyed this little article and from both of us, remember you were a child once.

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